a lot of debates come from opposites, or are they from opposites?
for instance

One big example from a friend who asked me this in jc. this question continues to plague me actually haha. because it is a deep question - the debate of choice or no choice - which is better for you personally? hm, both work for me, but i slightly prefer to have choice, yet i am afraid to make the wrong choice.

i also learnt actually the slower way, that sometimes when an advice or comment is made, it may not be directed at me and may be to everyone, or a group of people, or the person's own strong beliefs or some past experience of the person speaking, or a projection of their fears, or simply, to teach / guide everyone. so, you cannot take things to heart at times or too personal.

just the same with the word "humble". yes it may represent being non-boastful etc, but may not always mean not boasting or pretending to be lousy at something. it could actually mean quick to apologize, or quick to accept others (even at lover level), or quick to change. its about again, matters of ...the heart (not romance but used here, intentions and purpose)