casting the net

i have been oppotunizing on the fact that i am single and have no serious love obstacles or person in mind now so i have been casting the net wide. that has its own bad sides too like depth-wise there is lesser depth. you have to guard your heart in all cases right? and the persons' in question too. when there is a certainty or deeper liking then will i start narrowing down. and focussing

Things to Know Before You're 30

By Debra K Fileta

Debra K. Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in Relationship and Marital issues.

1. Time is limited, so invest it in things that matter.
2. Say no to one-way friendships. Not only is it important to use your time wisely, it’s crucial to spend it with people that care. So much of our time is wasted on superficial friendships and obligations.
6. Joy can come from unexpected places.
9. Your decisions affect more people than just yourself. There’s a ripple effect, and it gets clearer with each passing year.
10. Your words have a lot of power, so be careful what you say. From writing a blog post to saying a kind word, from a thoughtless comment to a negative remark, I’ve seen first hand how powerful words can be. They can build up and they can destroy. You learn to be more careful with how you use the words you have been given. They have the power to change lives.
11. Forgiveness is worth the hard work. More than ever, you see how much an unforgiving spirit impacts your life in a negative way, and how letting go has so much more to do with you than with others.
17. Those doors closed for a reason. I look back at the failures and disappointments in my life now, and I am so thankful for those closed doors and broken roads. God knew then what Iknow now. And I’m so glad He did.

'tis the season to be.....

married? Nope not me.....yet. hahaha.
But i received like in the past few MONTHS, not even years, months......okay, like more than 10 wedding invites already either thru very creatively, Facebook, or snail mail or the best one? through sms that was 3 page long. then the person forgot to post the invite. lol.

So....what does this say or not say about me? giggle. ok lets put it this way,. even if i am left on the shelf.....1) i am not alone on the shelf there are many other singles. 2) there is a lot i can do as a single person so i am taking advantage of that. for this period or season of life at least.......

But over all, the very most important part of the whole thing is this: that i totally trust God. not taking things into my own hands.

i realised i didnt change much from 2004 (was 21 yrs old) till now. some things did (40%) change but the rest didnt. i realise i am less afraid of doing things on my own now. as compared to teenage till early adulthood, 14-27 yrs old.
but moreso this year. i realised that yes, simply going out of my comfort zone is super amazing though really scary at first. the social part is super cool, you meet new people and form faster frenships as compared to when you're with a group or a buddy. but of course more can be done when in a pair or group and you don't feel so scared when you're doing something scary.
i super loved the minority group the Sapa people in hanoi. the 2 day one night homestay and culture exchange was super amazing. and i realised that was because it was a trek where i was quite out of my usual comfortable "tour" experience where i would be with friends or people who know me or in a place i know well. and i think it's truly worth it.......when you break your own barriers or perceived barriers.....and 'see the world as it is'.
As fun as a trip can be or get, and i thoroughly enjoyed being on my own exploring, etc.......at the end of the day even the fun you have with the people you meet there for a few days......i still feel strongly that sincere relationships and/or strong friendships will go the distance much more than only having a thrill.
 sincere personal friendships where you made a difference by helping someone, being there, teaching someone, being a friend, or even the desire to be a true friend to someone is of much more of value than just the thrill of exploring, having fun or seeing new places. And......it goes the distance. but its hard to form such friendships when......time is not on your side.......hm.......longer trips next time?

Playing the bible trivia game on my fone really gets to me to the point that: i uncover new truths all the time. it helps to keep learn-ing apps on your phone instead of meaning-lesser games huh. though for the languages part i duno how accurate some of the translations are into english.

like: Sin Keeps One from God

Isaiah 59
See, the Lord’s hand is not so short that it cannot save, and His ear is not closed that it cannot hear. ² But your wrong-doings have kept you away from your God. Your sins have hidden His face from you, so that He does not hear.

Strolling thru the memories of "going solo" on this first official backpacking trip....i was amazed how God kept me safe and the best part is i was SO amazed at the beauty of the valleys, sights sounds and SMELLS of Hanoi. Just like i predicted it would be after reading about it in high school (secondary school). The political part was quite tough to understand but overall it was so fun just forcing myself cheerfully though, to speak to strangers and the most scary part? i had to try and make friends with almost every person that seemed nice or friendly. every.
Thankfully the locals there are very easy going and down to earth and very approachable though talkative. (to be continued)

sapa valley the lovely

where oh where can my baby be?

nope its not actually a baby. lol. its a guy. yes not a girl. why is it when my peers reach this age there is so much added pressure - be it societal or family or personal pressure that makes us think seriously about the supposed "next stage" of our lives. so here i was wondering where he was.

I simply love echoing what people say back to them. if you call me baby, i call you baby.
so here i am. i ran back to the world of numbers and construction and logic.
will i become more reserved and introverted in that case?

hm......
in any case i have heard sooo mucch about this building from my grandparents but never actually stepped into it till now. imagine.......from 6 yrs old hearing about it till now 30.
God has his way of bringing old memories back eh.
apparently it's not a very appealing place.
but it looks happening at night lol. (the nightclubs etc)
:)
i guess i still need to talk.a lot.