relationships ....again

Here goes the "favourite" topic of many girls and...well some guys....those who are in touch with their hearts. So......i have found out that when you start off with a no first or zero or nothing its much easier to handle a "buidling up" or a proper relationship from a "nothing". that's better than giving fase hope at the start. let your "no" to a person slowly become a yes. quarelling helps too BUT only at the start. from the pickiness and quarels, slowly grow a friendship. of course dont quarrel if the person is injured or sad or has issues or is hurt or upset.

Also guys should talk more........not become CHATTY for the sake of talking because that could be a turn off but be open and honest and ready for........conversation. show your interest in engaging the girl..so that when she wants to speak and ask questions, you are most ready for her. and INTERESTED. Witty, funny or intellectual conversations are the safest bet.
I won't marry a guy who i have not had at least a minor argument with because arguments show you're being real and honest about who you are and what you stand for. show that you can argue and handle arguments now.......or else, enjoy the silence for the rest of your life.

Also personal acceptance rates. Be open to friendships, dates and getting to know the person as a whole...not just choose those from "the party scene" or the "beach club scene" or a type you like. (e.g. the nerd, the intellectual, the cool dude/chick, the good looker, the funny class clown, the quiet dude, the charmer). Certain traits you tend to go for, should always be checked and examined case by case instead of sticking to a list for the sake of it. which leads to my next point.

if you're a religious person, or believes in God or a way of living, or have no god (find one...it's good to have some kind of direction in life), ask your God/god to lead and direct your plans and steps. the bible speaks about Trusting in God with all your HEART (first, and not the mind) and not leaning on your own understanding. and He will direct your steps (prov 3;5-6). I would usually first, seek my own heart and see what i find there (like who, more like it), and then pray for each case/person. So you have to know yourself (your heart) first then ask God. Its usually red yellow or green light. no answer is good because it could be a yes.

Also be very aware that no matter what the world says about free-sex and casual sex and yes the very famous "Everyone is doing it"...the bible always mentions that physical love binds people together. (he who sleeps with a prostitute becomes one with her) spiritually, emotionally etc. so unless you want to be tied spiritually and emotionally and mentally for a long time with anyone or a number of people....for duno how long (till memory fades)....you could try abstinence.

feelings come and fade away any time. so marriages, if based on just the "falling in love" feeling to last a lifetime, high chance will not hold. the heart, logical decision, and gut-feel (u know urself and ur long term what-things-u-like-that-will-hold-longest best).