a lot of debates come from opposites, or are they from opposites?
for instance

One big example from a friend who asked me this in jc. this question continues to plague me actually haha. because it is a deep question - the debate of choice or no choice - which is better for you personally? hm, both work for me, but i slightly prefer to have choice, yet i am afraid to make the wrong choice.

i also learnt actually the slower way, that sometimes when an advice or comment is made, it may not be directed at me and may be to everyone, or a group of people, or the person's own strong beliefs or some past experience of the person speaking, or a projection of their fears, or simply, to teach / guide everyone. so, you cannot take things to heart at times or too personal.

just the same with the word "humble". yes it may represent being non-boastful etc, but may not always mean not boasting or pretending to be lousy at something. it could actually mean quick to apologize, or quick to accept others (even at lover level), or quick to change. its about again, matters of ...the heart (not romance but used here, intentions and purpose)

how to tell if you're a hopeless romantic who met someone who reminds you of...*Mr.

1) you talk to yourself sometimes (but actually you're imagining talking to your other...)

2) you watched 50 first dates or other romantic shows more than 3 times, and probably will watch more soon
3) bad things throughout the week that happen seem less bad
4) you smile a strange half-smile to yourself at times and have to keep coming up with excuses about it / (however, this also occurs with mental people)
5) Work and life has slightly more purpose

But seriously, that was written tongue in cheek so i sometimes tell myself, well......good vibes are good vibes but should not supercede your more or most important priorities in life. though they really can sweep people off their feet (literally and figuratively) - still trying to decipher the difference between literal and figurative.

thank God for everyone has a sense of humor. :)

spoilt for choice....
now the new and somewhat "good problem" in this era is we are all spoilt for choice. don't u think?

random...blessings

<sup>You don't need special women's insurance: 
Genesis 49

25</sup> because of your father’s God, who helps you,
    because of the Almighty, who blesses you
with blessings of the skies above,
    blessings of the deep springs below,
    blessings of the breast and womb.

 For choosing a brand of jeans:

Deuteronomy 10:8

At that time the Lord set apart the tribe of Levi to carry the ark of the covenant of the Lord, to stand before the Lord to minister and to pronounce blessings in his name, as they still do today.

Having an obedient attidude at least because you want blessing, if not

Deuteronomy 28:1

[ Blessings for Obedience ] If you fully obey the Lord your God and carefully follow all his commands I give you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations on earth.

for every one a different type of smartness

mine is for sure not technical subjects. that's why i chose this role....customer service though its hearing complains and bad stuff whole day. hah hah.

things i learnt in the LAST decade

My oh my...how ten years have passed just like that! but it wasn't that short either if u think of it. my 20-22 those three years seemed to drag forever though i was having fun in university. then came the 24-27 years old which seemed to be thinking of a big solution to my problems.
then came the exploring years which i am still at....which is probably the most exciting time now as well for me. went to england and hanoi alone. and some other places.
Things i learnt:
1) your weight will fluctuate whether you go for camps and indulge in 3 meal buffets or if you eat just simple 3 meals daily. don't get sad bcos of some weight gain (might even help in appearance...)
2) sleep - i can do with 5.5 hours MINimum daily. even if you sleep 1-2 hours you can survive the next day.but that's it, survive is the bare minimum u can do.
3) you only worry or feel disoriented about visiting in a new country the first 2 days. after that you will be happy.
4) take advice, but not the whole thing....depends.....
5) i cannot survive well in a small company unless they are all my old friends who i know for quite a few years. / manage to click well.
6) people can say things about you or even accuse you wrongly but you know yourself what the truth is, so don't need to get insulted or worse, angry, because when truth comes out by itself, the conviction lasts a longer time